Every single one of us reaches a point where everything must fall apart in order to be fixed. When this occurs, listen to the broken pieces as best you can.
WHEN YOU'RE CARRYING MORE THAN YOU CAN BALANCE
If your life contains more than you are able to take care of, it is time to clear something out. What is truly important? What is there just because someone else said it was? It is your right and responsibility to distinguish this for yourself, every single day. This is the only way we will get the really important stuff done while we’re here. The more you work your muscles of discernment, the more the holy process of life will make sense to you.
If you are trying to balance a life that seems unmanageable, take hope. The more you attempt the holy balance of life while listening deeply to your own inner guidance, the more skill you will attain for it. Trust the process, and take it one step at a time. In time, you will become very good at balancing that which is most important to you.
You already have the capacity for all this within you. It is just a matter of dusting that capacity off and honing in on what really matters. Learning to trust your own judgment will occur naturally.
WHEN YOU’RE STUCK IN A PAINFUL SITUATION
Are you stuck in a cycle that has no way of ending well? If you’re in a place that seems to have no good outcome for you, step back and take a good look at your surroundings. What are you trying to get out of this situation? Is that even possible? Is it truly worth your precious time and energy?
If you just can’t seem to get anything right, that may mean it’s time to zoom out and take a look at the bigger picture of what is going on around you. Instead of staying trapped in a painful situation, ask yourself if it’s time to leave or make an adjustment. You may fear that if you do things differently, you’ll get trapped somehow. But if you’re spending all of your time worrying about what bad things might occur in the future, you are already in a trap.
WHEN YOUR EMOTIONS ARE ALL OVER THE PLACE
Perhaps you're feeling “overly emotional.” Good. Be overly emotional. Be emotional all of the time. Emotions guide us to what’s going on inside ourselves. They guide us to our inner knowledge of what steps to take next, or what needs are going unfulfilled. Feelings are the stuff of life. Feeling is what makes us alive.
Each different pocket of feeling holds some key that you need in order to be whole and sustained. Tend to each one with love and great concern. Let is speak what it must. Let it hurt or cheer or laugh or fume. Each one moves us along the road of life. Take care of them all, and then clean yourself out for the fresh water of life to enter. The more we do this, the more our souls get cleaned and ready for all that vast goodness that we are capable of containing.
The only thing that makes a feeling “bad” is calling it “bad.” No feeling is actually “bad,” “good,” “right,” or “wrong.” Each feeling is just…a feeling. If you let it be just what it is, it is able to deliver its message to you and then move along its merry way. Sometimes it takes a while to pass, sometimes it takes just an instant. Some bring sensations you enjoy, while others cause great discomfort. Allow variety with each new emotion. And sit in wonder at all the different capacities you gain over time for being present and loving.
YOU ARE WORTH THAT WHICH YOU NEED MOST
The bottom line is this- you are worth wholeness. You are worth understanding, peace, and change. Whatever it is you need, go and get that. Over time, it will gradually start to make more sense.
Never have enough time?
There is never enough time to…
...get your work done…
...get the house clean…
…make those phone calls...
…make enough money...
...get the rest you need.
There is just never quite enough time.
Well, my solution to this problem is ridiculously simple:
There is enough time.
You actually do have enough time for the things you REALLY need to get done.
And all that stuff that doesn't get done? That's because it doesn't actually NEED to get done (either that, or you're stalling because it's the very thing that needs to get done the most, but we'll get to that another day).
Of course, there are periods of life where the genuine demands on us truly exceed our capacity. In these times, we just do what we can, and call that good enough.
But as my attitude toward money is s-l-o-w-l-y shifting from 'never enough' to 'enough,' so is my attitude toward time.
Because no matter how long my to do list remains at the end of the day, I've almost always had time for the stuff that really matters: caring for myself, playing with my tenderchild, laughing with my husband, feeling warm and safe in my home, creating something I truly care about.
These are the things that matter most, therefore, these are at the top of my priority list every single day.
And sometimes (read: oftentimes) this means that 'call the exterminator' and 'create a pop-up box for website' will just have to wait until next week.
Because next week, or the week after that, or whenever it actually ends up happening, will be just fine.
When something becomes really important, the magic of Perfect Timing conspires to help me get it done right now.
And if it's not happening now, that's fine. It will happen when it needs to happen, or never at all.
But if this is hard to see, have faith.
There are ways to make peace with time & plans & to-do lists.
There are ways to prepare for the future AND live in the present moment.
This is exactly why I am so proud to introduce the...
TAKING CARE OF OUR HEARTS AND MINDS
WHILE WE ARRANGE OUR TASKS AND TIME
This planner will contain a plethora of different options so that you can fit it to YOUR needs & YOUR energy levels.
You will be able to plan your year, month, week, and/or day in whatever combination fits YOU best.If you need to plan simply, in detail or even cyclically, you can find the way that works with YOUR personal style.
It will be perfect to print out and put in your favorite 3-ring binder, adding or subtracting the pages in whichever way YOU like.This beautiful planner is designed to... …focus your energy without squeezing all the breath out of it.
...manage all the balls you have up in the air so that you can forget about them and go joyously celebrate the wonders of life.
…help you get really clear about what you're spending your time on and why.
...look so gorgeous that you can't wait to open it up every morning!
…be used when YOU need it.
…let you create more balance & presence & joy in your life.
...integrate the natural rhythms of life into your modern day demands.
...be what YOU need it to be.
So much possibility!
This beautiful planner will be available to you in December.So, to tide you over until then, here are a few tips for planning with grace and direction:1. Your plans should revolve around YOU, not the other way around.2. If you have much more on your to-do list than you ever seem able to get done, look through each item closely and ask "Who is this actually important to?"3. Sometimes, we just want to plan something because it's exciting to think about. But then, after we get past the planning stage, we begin to see if it's actually worth the follow-through required. It may not be. That's fine.4. Planning is both a freedom and a restriction. When we plan well, we are free to work or play without having to store every detail in our brain. But it can also be like making a million tiny commitments at once. If you're like me, and commitment scares the shit out of you, this can be an uncomfortable sensation. Finding peace is about navigating these two sides until we find the balance that works for our specific personality.5. As the wonderful Chris Till says, If you reach a point where you have so many options that you don't know which way to go next, STOP: Stick To Original Plan.I am so excited to get this planner ready for you!! Please let me know if there are aspects of planning you want extra help with!
SO MUCH LOVE,
Whitney Rhiannon Till
Most mornings, I sit down with a crystal, a candle, a bell and a sea stone.
Earth, fire, air, and water.
With each one, I say a prayer, first to my root, then my passion, then my understanding, and last of all, my cleaning out.
This process helps me focus my energy before I begin my work, but sometimes, I get a little more out of it.
Yesterday was one of those days.
As I was mediating, my thoughts roamed, once again, to my desire for assurance about my work.
After ruminating on my doubts for a few moments, I heard a cool, crisp voice state:
“It is not time for proof,
It is time for faith.”
Faith in what?
My faith used to be believing that God had a certain form and that a certain series of events would occur in the future. But as I have grown, as I have experienced utter loss, and questioned everything I thought I knew, my faith has become more nuanced, and I am left wondering: what is it I have all this faith in anyway?
First of all, aren’t I supposed to have a name for the thing I trust? God, Allah, the Universe, Earth Mother, Jesus, the Divine, Source? All of these names help, but they don’t actually say the thing I’m trying to say.
Because the face of my faith has changed, morphed, and shifted through the years, and ultimately, I am still at a loss for a description of that to which I pray.
But I know it inside. I think a part of me always has.
It is why the God of the Old Testament said “I Am that I Am.” This God that cannot be named because no material form is vast enough for it.
And yesterday, I was given a new image of faith:
In the inner cavern of the heart, there is a vast, empty, stunningly white space.
It is full with nothing.
It is utter blankness.
But in the very center there is one word:
It tells no more, gives no other clues.
It is when we get to this place that we realize:
this is vulnerability.
This is the discomfort of not knowing, but still attempting, in whatever ways possible, to accept the lack of certainty we have about life.
It requires us to be completely vulnerable to ourselves, because we must admit that one awful truth:
We don’t know.
We don’t know the future, we don’t know our entire selves, we don’t know the world. It goes on and on and on.
Vulnerability is getting to the place where we are bereft of all our mental protection.
Faith is believing it’s okay to be there.
Faith and vulnerability are just two sides of the same coin: One gives us strength, while the other cleans us out.
We must have one to have the other, and we must have both to be whole.
So...I still don’t know what exactly I have faith in, but I know that my faith is bigger now than it has ever been before.
And I don’t think this is just a coincidence.
P.S. Feel free to share your own sense of faith in the comments below.
I am learning, once again, how to tolerate intense energy.
I know what realms of emotions I am very good a skirting around. They are what I consider the “hot” feelings: excitement, anticipation, anger.
When I’m edging into one of these, and the energy becomes more than I can handle, I find a way to siphon it off, to move around it rather than through it.
I think it’s okay that this happens. In fact, I think it’s only natural, and I would bet that everyone has some area of feeling they are good at avoiding.
But now I have a problem. Because these "hot" feelings include creativity. And what I'm trying to do now requires letting my creative energy build and build to much greater levels than I am comfortable with.
Even writing this is requiring immense patience from me.
Since I don’t know exactly what I’ll end up creating, and if it will be good enough to put “out there,” I get really nervous and want to just stop.
I would much rather go grab that pint of ice cream out of the freezer and go watch The Goodwife. I love doing these things, and at the end of a hard day’s work, treats and TV are immensely satisfying. But if I stop before I’ve finished what I know I need to finish, I’m left with a discontent. The nerves don’t actually go away. They just go underneath and feed into worry and uncertainty.
But I’ve learned something in the past year that really helps me to not jettison these uncomfortable, yet highly productive feelings:
When I feel strong desire for a certain outcome, instead of trying to figure out if or when it will occur, I need to focus on what the urge feels like inside of me.
Instead of asking: “How can I guarantee my desired outcome?” I need to ask “What is this drive leading me toward right now?”
When I listen to myself in this way, do the work I need to do, and follow the sensation all the way through, I find a more organic sense of patience and trust in the process.
It doesn’t make my “high-end” energy go away, but it helps me stay with it and get to where I need to go, instead of spending that energy before it’s fueled the work it needs to.
The energy is good. I am good. We're just learning how to play together.
Whitney Rhiannon Till