That if you just tried harder, figured out the right stuff to do, the right way to look, that you'd finally become the person you are supposed to be?
(I mean this in the sweetest way possible;)
You already are enough, exactly the way you are, precisely because that is who you are, and who you are --> is fucking incredible.
There is nothing wrong with your fundamental self, but thinking there is can hold us back from discovering the most awesome parts of our personalities and abilities.
You are who you are, regardless of what other people see or don't see.
When you are ready, when you are able, own your own particular make-up, your inner rhythms and passions, your unique way of being in this world. 'Cuz it's good.
Whatever your way is, that's the right way for you to be, because that's the way you are. You will change over the years, but it all starts from right here, from where you are right now.
There is no absolute need to fulfill an outside standard of yourself in order to be a valid member of this world. You may fill outside standards at specific times, for specific reasons, this is very skillful and, at times, necessary for getting to where you need to go. But all you ever really need to be is you. And anyone who can't accept that, has their own stuff to work out. (as we all do ;)
So just be whatever it is you are, because Who You Are is what this world really needs.
The only way to let others love you, is to just be you.
Just be what you are, and see what happens next. You may surprise yourself ;)
[Disclaimer: I do not mean this as some kind of license for poor behavior. We do not have the freedom to harm others. I say this based on the belief that underneath all our layers of pain and shame and conditioning, most people are truly good people who genuinly want the best for the ones they love. Act on THIS.]