When things are hard, life can contain so much that must be processed, that at times, we are unable see the whole picture. We fight the very facts of life, and watch our precious energy drain away before our eyes.
But...when we release...
...when we accept the dare of allowing life to be just as it is...
...it somehow begins to work better.
It may not necessarily be pretty, but it makes just a tiny bit more sense. We are able to laugh about our own situation a little bit more.
We get better at stepping into the natural flow of things.
When we allow sorrow, loss and grief......it begins to (ever so slowly) magically transform into purpose and reason. When we enter the space where we accept that pain is simply the other side of joy, and loss is inherent in all love, we begin to feel that fleeting sensation that we're actually okay in this world.
The world is not against us.
It just is.
Because there is a distinct difference between struggling and suffering. We will always have struggle, it is built into the very essence of life. But the effort to remove struggle; to ignore, resist, or destroy it, that is when suffering begins wrapping around our minds once again.
We can struggle and learn something, or we can refuse to accept struggle and secret that burden down into our unseen parts.
It is the simplest decision we make, and it is the hardest decision we make.
The best way I've found to do this, the way that has always remained an option, is this:
Over and over and over and over again.
We just keep doing it, moment by moment, throughout every day of our lives.
Then we forget to accept, and we feel the life-sucking chains of denial wrap tightly around us yet again.
Then we remember to breath, and we slowly allow acceptance to melt over us to whatever extent we are able to.
And then we repeat this process: over and over and over again.
This is normal. This is how we do it.
The more we do this, the easier it gets. The more second-nature acceptance becomes.
We just keep reminding ourselves that...
...IT IS ALL OKAY.
All of it.
Every piece of our story. Every segment of our pain. Every confusion and question and worry we feel.
ALL OF IT IS ACCEPTABLE.
It is simply what is in you right now.
If it's in you - it's okay. (Really).
Just let it be. Breath. Wait. Do the work you must do. Then breath again. And see what is in you then.