More and more, I see that wholeness is not found by spending all our energy trying to prevent bad things from happening to us.
Wholeness is created by learning how to heal yourself.
Whether it's from heartbreak, trauma, harsh conditioning, prejudice, or any other arrangement of hardship that life is guaranteed to provide each one of us at one point or another.
There could be any ten billion ways to create your inner healing.
Try them all.
Just do them, and see what comes of it. When you find something that works, share it with your friends! If something your friend swears by does nothing for you, SO WHAT?!
We are free to spend our lives healing our own hearts.
(And it is okay if you need an entire lifetime to do it in.)
If you want to know how to do it, there is only one simple equation I have found to date:
---GIVE LOVE TO YOURSELF---
Every......single........day. In every way imaginable.
Offer compassion, understanding, forgiveness and grace, every single moment you are able to. There will be moments when you challenge yourself, yes, but they will come from your own authentic drive for change.
Acceptance (of the radical kind) can change everything.
Do for yourself what you would do for a very dear friend. If you are sore, massage. If you are hungry, feed. If you are hurt, comfort. If you are awake, REJOICE!
The love you most crave is only possible when you first allow if from yourself.
Give yourself the acceptance you've always wanted and needed.
Then your heart will be full to the brim and you will be able to give it back out again, in gladness.
Because whether we work to please and obey, or we dare to begin untangling the shackles we've been wrapped up in, the world will still go on. So we may as well choose the way that will free at least one soul.
Take the unimaginable risk of believing that giving tender, loving care to yourself really is the best thing you can do for anyone in this world.